Somewhere in our brains, society has created this belief that being alone is ‘wrong.’ When we think of spending time alone, especially holidays, our automatic societal thoughts jump into our brains and scream out to be heard. “only losers are alone.” “You are so unpopular.” “No one loves you.” All of these phrases that can be rooted in our childhood can take control of our thought process and lead to more negative thoughts.

If we do not dispute these thoughts, they will lead to additional negative beliefs and possible depression. So, in order to remain that ‘happy single,’ stop those negative thoughts before they take control. Remind yourself of your accomplishments, strengths, and wonderful parts that make you, you.

Embracing the roll of a single person, whether you desire to always remain single or it is a transitional period, it is important to be true to yourself. Respect and honor yourself and all the wonderful opportunities available to you at this time. You have so much worth no matter what your martial status is. There is a new year upon us and let us not waste anymore time beating ourselves up because we do not fit a cultural norm.