Do you ever feel let down by the people whom you befriended? Are you frequently disappointed by circumstances in which you gave so much of yourself? If you answered “yes” to the preceding questions, chances are your positive actions were contingent on your recieving some form of benefit down the road.

We frequently befriend others or perform favors with a hidden agenda. The friendship we offer is usually conditional, without us even realizing it. We want something in return. It might be social standing, a loan, a favor; their attention, or their love.

When we give unconditional love and perform genuine actions of sharing, joy  comes from our giving- not from what we want in return. The givers gives. Period. Givers derive their pleasure from the unconditional act of pure sharing, expecting nothing.